National Resource Center for Healthy Marriage and Families
The Director's Corner
February is officially Black History Month. It's also Human Relations,
and Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month. And then of course, there is
Valentine's Day. So what do these have in common? They each focus on
connections - connections to history, to other people, and to our loved
In our work lives, we know how important connections are. We network
for opportunities to stay current in our field, and for access to
resources to support the families we serve. Sometimes, in the midst of
our fast-paced lives, it's easy to forget how important connections are
in our personal lives as well.
So as we focus on connections this month, let the Resource Center
connect you to tips, tools, and resources to support your work while
you focus on those personal connections that are so important to keeping
us grounded and balanced.
Robyn Cenizal, Project Director
Tip of the Month
Your monthly tip to strengthen the relationships of those you serve. Share it - Post it - Pass it on!
It's not surprising that expressing love is part of healthy
marriages and committed relationships. But what does "love" look like?
Well, it depends. Family history, gender, cultural and other special circumstances,
and ethnic influences lead individuals to have different expectations
and acceptable norms for marriage and intimate relationships.
When people show love, they often do things that
they themselves would like. But if their "primary love language" differs
from their partner's, then the partner might not recognize it as an
expression of love. Share these concepts from Gary Chapman's 1995 book The Five Love Languages
with those you serve. Have them choose which love language they
identify with most and which their partner identifies with most. Try it
with your own significant other, too!
- Words of Affirmation. "I feel most loved when my partner uses kind words and compliments to tell me how much I am valued and appreciated."
- Quality Time. "I feel most loved when my partner gives me full attention and I am able to spend alone time with my partner."
- Receiving Gifts. "I feel most loved when my partner gives me gifts."
- Acts of Service. "I feel most loved when my
partner does things for me, such as cooking dinner, doing laundry,
cleaning, and taking care of the car."
- Personal Touch. "I feel most loved when my
partner shows his/her feelings through physical contact such as holding
hands, kissing, hugging, or sex."
The Resource Center's Virtual Library
has collected more than 500 materials in a variety of formats -
including factsheets, research-to-practice briefs, brochures, pamphlets,
training resources, program reports or evaluations, and research
Click the link below to view our featured February resource:
The Resource Center's Events Calendar
offers a listing of Resource Center events and other national,
regional, and community-wide events that might be of interest. Upcoming
- National Anti-Hunger Policy Conference March 3-5, 2013 in Washington, DC:
Participants share information and learn how to strengthen the quality
and reach of federal nutrition programs, learn best outreach and program
practices from other states and localities, fill in the gaps in food
service for millions of low-income children, and identify creative ideas
for new and innovative approaches to ending hunger.
Feedback and Technical Assistance:
If you have suggestions or wish to speak with a Resource Center staff member, please contact us and we will be happy to assist you. If you would like to request Technical Assistance, please submit a Training and Technical Assistance Request Form and our Technical Assistance Coordinator will contact you.
To learn more about the Resource Center visit us at www.healthymarriageandfamilies.org
The National Resource Center for Healthy Marriage and Families
supports safety-net service providers as they integrate healthy marriage
and relationship education skills into service delivery systems as part
of a comprehensive, culturally appropriate, family-centered approach
designed to promote self-sufficiency.