National Resource Center for Healthy Marriage and Families
The Director's Corner
President Wilson designated November 11th as Armistice Day
to commemorate the ceasefire that ultimately ended World War I in 1919.
According to the U.S. Department of Veteran Affairs,
President Wilson's proclamation included the following words: "To us in
America, the reflections of Armistice Day will be filled with solemn
pride in the heroism of those who died in the country’s service and with
gratitude for the victory, both because of the thing from which it has
freed us and because of the opportunity it has given America to show her
sympathy with peace and justice in the councils of the nations..."
Although years later, Armistice Day was renamed as Veteran's Day
to honor all military veterans, President Wilson's words are timeless.
"Pride" and "heroism" still represent how we think of our military men
and women. Words like "gratitude," "opportunity," "sympathy," "peace,"
and "justice" still represent core American values.
One way to honor our active military men and women is to support
their families so they can focus on serving our country. This
November, as we honor Veteran's Day and celebrate Thanksgiving, we
should be thoughtful of the military families in our communities. Take
the opportunity to show gratitude by reaching out to them. Look for ways
to connect them to community resources that reduce isolation and
improve access to needed services. The Resource Guide mentioned below
offers some great ideas for resources.
Robyn Cenizal, Project Director
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In A Support and Resource Guide for Working With Military Families,
military service members, spouses, and adult children shared
conversation tips to build trust and understanding of military families.
"Good" questions included:
- Why did you decide to volunteer for military service?
- When did serving become more “who" you are than "what" you are?
- How has your service shaped your concept of family?
One of the top questions that service members said to avoid was
whether the service member had killed someone or seen someone killed.
They explained that their most traumatic experiences are deeply personal
and not always shared with their own loved ones, which means that they
are not appropriate topics for casual discussion with curious friends,
service providers, or strangers.
The Resource Center's Virtual Library
has collected more than 600 materials in a variety of formats
including fact sheets, research-to-practice briefs, brochures,
pamphlets, training resources, program reports or evaluations, and
Select the links below to view our featured November resources:
- Tips for understanding military couple relationships after deployment (Tip Sheet)
This tip sheet summarizes what is known about the couple
relationships of service members after deployment and recommends ways in
which safety-net service providers can offer support to them in
maintaining successful couple relationships.
- A support and resource guide for working with military families (Resource Guide)
This guide uses a three stage process, allowing readers to: (1)
better understand military structure and culture; (2) better understand
and connect with existing resources for military service members and
their families; and (3) learn more about the role that core marriage and
relationship skills play in work, school, family, and military
environments, as well as strategies for integrating healthy marriage and
relationship skills into service delivery systems for military service
members and their families.
The Resource Center's Events Calendar
offers a listing of Resource Center events and other national,
regional, and community-wide events that might be of interest. Upcoming
- 2013 National League of Cities (NLC) Congress of Cities and Exposition in Seattle, WA, November 13-16, 2013: The
Congress of Cities and Exposition offers a broad range of learning
opportunities including Leadership Training Institute Seminars,
peer-to-peer networking, workshops, showcases, and an Exposition Hall.
Through innovative programming offered at the conference, participants
strengthen their ability to lead and grow America's cities, towns, and
villages. The National Resource Center will be exhibiting at this
- Family Structure, Stability and Child Well-being webinar on Wednesday, December 11, 2013 2:00:00 PM EST - 3:00:00 PM EST:
Dr. Terry-Ann Craigie, the current Self-Sufficiency Research
Clearinghouse (SSRC) Emerging Scholar, will host a webinar titled Family
Structure, Stability and Child Wellbeing. Dr. Craigie will discuss the
determinants and effects of family structure and instability, as well as
the pathways through which child wellbeing is affected. Topics to be
covered during Dr. Craigie's webinar include key determinants of family
structure and stability, whether child outcomes vary by family
structure, the advantages and disadvantages of formal versus informal
child support, and implications for policy and future research.
- On December 12th, the Resource Center is convening the New York Integration Institute
in Saratoga Springs, NY - a one day training event for safety-net
service providers across the State of New York. Attendees will have an
opportunity to share information regarding their agencies' current
efforts to promote relationship skills; participate in facilitated
discussions regarding healthy marriage and relationship education skills
and integration strategies; and engage in consensus building and action
planning activities. This event is by invitation only. However, if you
would like more information on upcoming institutes or to organize an
event in your state or area, please contact us.
Feedback and Technical Assistance:
If you have suggestions or wish to speak with a Resource Center staff member, please
contact us and we will be happy to assist you. If you would like to
request Technical Assistance, please submit a Training and Technical Assistance
Request Form and our Technical Assistance Coordinator will contact you.
To learn more about the Resource Center visit us at www.healthymarriageandfamilies.org
The National Resource Center for Healthy Marriage and Families
service providers as they integrate healthy marriage and relationship
education skills into service delivery systems as part of a
comprehensive, culturally appropriate, family-centered approach designed
to promote self-sufficiency.